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How Grounding Can Boost Your Intimacy & Improve Sex
Did you know that grounding together might just be the best Valentines date you could plan? Getting grounded routinely is probably helping your relationship in more ways than you know! And with Valentines Day coming up this week, I thought this might be the perfect time to talk about why my favorite holistic healing therapy of all time — grounding — can boost your sexual health, possibly even boosting sex drive and fertility!
I was listening to a recent presentation of several urologists and sexual medicine specialists and they brought up this idea of using sexual health as a vital sign — a marker of whole body health. I really liked that idea, because our reproductive health is interconnected with many of our major organ systems, for example:
- you need healthy hormone balance to have a functioning sex drive
- you need healthy circulation to have proper genital function during sex
- you need healthy nerve sensation to have sexual arousal and responsiveness
Because of this, sexual function can be a window into our cardiovascular system, our hormonal balance, and our peripheral nervous system. While there are lots of ways to address sexual dysfunction, from evaluating our heart health to ruling out diabetes to going over medication side effects, one of the best ways to address total body health is by grounding.
Grounding supports all three: hormone balance, circulation, and nerve function, as well as improving the function of many other organ systems. It’s so beneficial that you might even want to invest in a way to ground your bed at night — to reap all the benefits of grounding when you desire the sexual benefits most. An organic grounding bed roll or mattress topper might just be the most romantic impactful Valentines gift of all! Find those here.
If you are struggling with infertility, if you are struggling with getting in the mood, if you are struggling with pain during intimacy, if you are struggling with genital responsiveness, blood flow, or hormone balance, here are seven great reasons you might want to consider grounding to help address these issue all at once:
7 Ways Grounding Makes Sex Better:
1. Improved Circulation & Increased Blood Flow:
I think it’s obvious that healthy circulation is absolutely crucial to sexual arousal, and not just for men but for women as well. Boosted blood flow to the genitals, nipples, lips… this allows our body to create moisture and lubrication, it allows the sex organs to become engorged, and even heightens sensitivity of everything from our fingertips to our lips to our nipples to our groin.
So the most obvious way that grounding helps with sex is that it improves circulation all over your body, from head to toe, within minutes. I’m going to go into more depth on how grounding supports our cardiac health next week, as it’s Valentine’s Day next Tuesday and I am going to focus on heart health in next week’s blog post… but if you want to understand just how incredible grounding is for your circulation, therefore for you sexual stimulation, you can read this article right now:
2. Relaxed Muscles:
Grounding immediately decreases muscle tension, all over your body. That’s why touching the earth can help deter a tension headache from occurring, or help release pain from fibromyalgia, or decrease restless leg syndrome and teeth clenching and other muscle tension issues.
When you want to get romantic, relaxing your muscles and dropping deeply into a calm, receptive state can really help you be present to connect with your partner, as well as make intimacy more comfortable. To learn more about how grounding decreases muscle tension, I created a video for you here:
3. Balanced Sex Hormones:
Grounding has been shown repeatedly in the medical literature to lower cortisol. By lowering cortisol, you have more building blocks for other hormones to be made, since cortisol uses the same building blocks as sex hormones like testosterone and estrogen.
So if your sex hormones are low or out of whack, one thing you definitely want to do is lower your cortisol production, which not only decreases your felt perception of stress (good when you are trying to get in the mood!) but also allows more building blocks for your body to naturally boost your own testosterone and estrogen and other sex hormone levels. For more on how grounding balances hormones naturally, hop over here:
4. Boosted Mood, Decreased Stress:
Grounding has been shown to boost mood naturally, which is fabulous if you suffer from anxiety or depression, which are both absolute libdo killers. For a deeper dive into exactly why grounding boosts mood and what the medical studies have revealed about grounding to reduce anxiety and depression, hop over and read this article I wrote for you here:
And if you just want some quick tips on how to use grounding to lift your mood right now, I have an article waiting for you here on that:
5. Improved Neurologic Function:
On top of the boost in mood grounding provides, there are multiple other ways that grounding supports our central and peripheral nervous system. Anything that uses conductivity and electrical impulse to function, such as our brain and our sensory nerve fibers, are going to be positively impacted when we are grounded. In fact, studies show that within milliseconds of being grounded our brain wave patterns improve. Published in March of 2023 in the Open Journal Of Neurology & Neuroscience, I wrote an overview on what the medical studies have found on the impact of grounding so far, which you can read right here:
6. Decreased Pain & Inflammation:
Grounding has been medically studied and found to relieve pain as well as decrease whole body inflammation. This is key if pelvic pain or other pain conditions are what kill your libido or prevent you from relaxing into intimacy.
I have a video going into much more detail on why grounding can be a game changer for you if you have pain… and not only grounding, but I go over 5 different ideas to help release chronic pain… things your doctor probably didn’t tell you about or explain to you.
This video is a must watch for anyone who suffers from chronic pain conditions:
7. Counterbalance Toxic EMF Effects:
The natural EMFs from the earth (the Shuman Resonance and the Carnegie Curve) heal our body and are exactly opposite of the effects of manmade EMFs that harm our body. Manmade EMFs have been found repeatedly in medical studies to decrease fertility by decreasing both sperm motility and sperm quality (and quantity too.)
If you want to read more about how natural EMFs help balance out the effects of manmade EMFs on the human body, which may help improve fertility, you might enjoy this free article I wrote for you:
Improved blood flow, relaxed muscles, decreased stress, boosted sex hormones, improved mood, less pain — these all can equal a massively improved sexual experience for you and your partner. Want a good overview on why grounding for longer periods of time means accumulating benefits? Here is a free article I wrote for you on the immediate and long term benefits of grounding:
Want to give it a try?
If you want to feel what I’m talking about, you can experiment with going outside and leaning against a tree to kiss your sweetie, or sitting on the ground (or with just feet touching the ground) and enjoy a long slow sweet kiss. You will definitely feel a difference, just in that one kiss, compared to a kiss you do in a car or indoors.
Feel your lips, feel the sensation and the blood flow through them as you lean into your lover. It’s a heightened experience.
So how do you get grounded when you are ready to go further than a kiss, but want more privacy?
Oh it’s so easy. You can use an indoor grounding tool to ground your bed — that’s the easiest solution and sleeping grounded all night long will not only help your sex life but will boost your body’s health in a multitude of ways.
I have invested a great deal of time and research creating the highest quality, most reliable, eco-ethically hand crafted (right here in the USA) grounding tools that use all natural materials — safer for you, safer for the environment.
Tools that can be used while you are sexually intimate in bed, grounding products you can lay directly on with your partner… items like grounding mattress toppers, grounding bed rolls, and organic grounding mats, as well as grounding pillowcases made from raw silk that you can use on top of any of these grounding products.
Upgrade your bedtime grounding experience by clicking here.
Want another holistic way to help boost your libido?
How about morning light on your face.
New research (presented at the 29th European College of Neuropsychopharmacology Congress on September 19, 2016) shows that the same light therapy recommendation to treat Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) can significantly improve sexual satisfaction in people with low desire after only 2 weeks of treatment!
While this study was on men, because light therapy is incredibly effective for females too, I truly believe that this would work for women with low sex drive and should be first line therapy for anyone with sexual dysfunction or low sex drive.
The study:
- Researchers studied 38 patients with a diagnosis of primary hypoactive sexual desire or sexual arousal disorder. Patients were randomly assigned to receive either active light treatment or placebo light treatment.
- Active treatment was a daily 30 minute exposure to a light box with UV filter upon waking each morning. Placebo light treatment was the same exposure but with a neutral density filter to reduce the light exposure to .01% strength of the active therapy.
- Patients were assessed clinically at baseline and after 2 weeks of daily morning light exposure, as well as through self assessments and blood samples to test hormone response to light therapy.
The results:
- After only two weeks of light therapy, patients with the active light treatment had hugely significant improvements in sexual satisfaction compared to placebo.
- After just two weeks, sexual satisfaction for active light therapy patients increased more than 3X over baseline (from a rating of 2 out of 10 to 6.7 out of 10!). Placebo light therapy users had no statistically significant improvement at all (from baseline of 2 out of 10 to 2.7 out of 10)
- In addition, the testosterone levels of the patients receiving active light therapy rose by over 50% in just two weeks (from an average testosterone level of 2.1 ng/mL to an average of 3.6 ng/mL!). In contrast, there was no change at all to testosterone levels in the placebo group.
This news is back to back with recent medical studies showing that light therapy is an incredibly effective solution for treating all forms of depression, as I blog about here! I feel convinced that light therapy should be first line of treatment or added to the existing treatment of all forms of depressive disorders and sexual dysfunction. Light therapy can be used safely in conjunction with medical treatments (including Rx medications) so if you are on an anti-depressant or a drug to treat sexual dysfunction, augment your treatment with light therapy and it’s possible you can work with your physician to decrease the dose!
If you want to give light therapy a try, I have combed through thousands of light therapy boxes to bring you the absolutely most effective, least expensive, most portable light therapy box that truly works…
… and it’s waiting for you right here!
So try to make a habit of going out every morning immediately after waking up and grabbing a few minutes of daylight, grounded. And if that is not possible, consider adding a light box to your morning routine and a grounding tool into your nighttime routine.
Forward this article to your lover and plan to include being outside together, or grounding in bed together, this Valentines Day and let’s have your best one yet…
xoxo, Laura Koniver MD
