Thoughts on Health… Dealing with negative people

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It’s my b-day as I type this, so I’m going to take a step back and let the lovely Hibiscus Moon take over for today.

I was introduced to her blog by Krista (thank you Krista!!!) and fell in love with a blog post in which she shared her 5 favorite ways to diffuse negativity when other people are bringing negativity into your space.

So without further ado…. here she is! Hibiscus Moon, ladies and gents!



How To Deal With Negative People In 5 Sparkly Steps:

1. Be aware.

Who are those negative peeps? Do you know? Sometimes, you don’t because they do it so much that it almost seems normal! So how do you know?

Do you just have that feeling when they’re around or after they leave? Do you just want to get away from them? Do they just drum up drama? Do they always NEED something?

Once you know who they are, you can work on DOING something about it. The 1 thing you have control over is your reaction to the situation. Thank Goodness! You can even avoid them.

If it’s a family member, you can simply step out of the situation & observe. I try to understand why the person is so negative. BUT, don’t sympathize with them verbally.


2. Say nothing

So here comes the negativity barrage. Smile & say nothing. Yep, just like grandma said…”If you have nothing good to say…” :)

If you don’t give energy to this interchange it goes away…no fuel.

This is usually where I get sucked into the Negativity Black hole. It’s so easy to get pulled in. Next thing I know, I’m pissed about all sorts of things & I feel totally drained.


3. Try wearing black tourmaline.

Black tourmaline is known for its ability to transmute & “cleanse” energy.

You can really boost the energy of your black tourmaline if you put your intention into it. Try visualizing the stone’s energy field cocooning you…because it actually is…but when you realize it, you can amplify it, creating a virtual force field around you. Can’t Touch This!


4. Say, “OK, now tell me something good.”

This is major diffuser. Like water to the flame. I actually LOVE how this ends the tirade.

Try it!! It’s kind of funny.

5. Restructure the Energy

Sage smudging is great for this!! It generates negative ions in our environment which makes the energy around us feel great!

This is some powerful space clearing mojo that makes the energy in your environment sparkle again!! If you want to know the WHY of this (as I often do!) click here for a Web MD explanation.

sage smudge

Can’t smudge? It’s not always practical, is it?

I like to use a spray smudge that I make which includes sage herb tincture, smokey quartz gem elixir & black tourmaline gem elixir (found on her website.)

I use this to clear the energy after the negativity monger leaves the area. Spritz, spritz, spritz!!! It really chases out the “Yuck & Stuck” energy, as I like to call it.


Lovely ideas Hibiscus!!!! Especially breaking into a negative rant with a simple “okay, now tell me something good!” That is music to my ears.

I love using sage sticks to clear out my home during changes in season or after illness or stress… I also love tossing sage sticks into summer bonfires as the smoke and scent help keep biting flies and mosquitos away in addition to clearing the air!

So smudge stick in a spray… what a clever idea! Love it!!!



Check out her website here… she has tons and TONS of great information and lots of free videos on everything from how to work with your crystals to how to use a crystal grid.

Thanks so much Hibiscus for stopping by my blog and sharing such wonderful, positive and fun advice. I’ll be back on Wed with my second Inspiration Wednesday medical book shred… can’t wait to share it with you. xoxo, Laura