With Valentines Day coming up next week, I thought this might be the perfect time to talk about why my favorite holistic healing therapy of all time — grounding — can boost your partner’s health, even boosting their sex drive and fertility!
More on that below.
Did you know that grounding together might just be the best Valentines date you could plan? Getting grounded routinely is probably helping your relationship in more ways than you know! First of all, just by touching your partner, you can actually donate electrons to them. It’s true!
When you were a kid, did you ever walk around in your socks, rubbing them on a carpet repeatedly so you could sneak up to your sibling and shock them? (Or was that just me, LOL? My poor older brother.)
If you’ve ever shocked someone when touching them, you know this on a large scale — you could literally feel the large quantity of electrons passing between the two of you that caused the shock.
On a smaller scale, this is happening with every interaction, all day long.
Because no two bodies are 100% completely balanced and neutral in respect to each other, electrons are always flowing one way or another when you touch someone else, or they touch you.
Although the amount of electrons transferring is such a small amount relative to the amount of electrons in a human body, I believe this is in part why healing touch is so powerful. When you donate me of your electrons to someone who is in worse physical condition than you (such as someone in pain, with an inflammatory process going on) you are supporting them in many ways.
I think this is part of what massage therapists, physical therapists, acupuncturists and other healers are doing when they touch you. Even your pet can donate electrons to you when it snuggles up with you while you are sick or have a chronic condition bringing you down.
Medical studies are just starting to reveal the healing power of physical touch:
- physical touch has the power to reduce pain
- physical touch has the power to prolong pain free intervals (even in critically ill patients)
- physical touch has the power to calm brain activity during distress
- physical touch has the power to lower heart rate and blood pressure
- physical touch has the power to calm respiratory rate
And all of these studies are just from touch alone!
They do not include all of the wonderful studies that show the healing power of therapeutic touch, such as massage therapy and physical therapy. Just simple skin-to-skin contact.
Do these results sound familiar? What other healing modality do you know that can decrease pain, calm brain waves, lower blood pressure, lower heart rate, and calm respiratory rate?
Yep, grounding does all of that in the exact same way, with direct physical contact and the transfer of electrons between the human body and the earth. So the first take home point today is: when you reach out to others, you are likely donating electrons to someone who needs them.
In short, you are grounding them. So it’s super important to remember to get grounded yourself.
If you ground your body routinely, this can be a very kind thing to do — with every hug or hand squeeze or touch, you are literally helping others to neutralize their depleted body, which is one reason why touch is so healing. Especially if your loved one is not on board with or does not routinely practice grounding themselves… no matter. The earth will still heal them, with you as the conduit.
You may want to ask yourself, have you ever noticed:
- feeling depleted at, or after, work?
- at or after going out and about to shopping malls, restaurants, crowded places?
- after group meetings, after introductions that include handshakes, or after social functions where you spent time embracing large numbers of friends or family members that are not routinely grounded?
- after using public transit, in crowded shopping areas, or while eating out?
With every touch, you likely donated some electrons to someone who needs them.
The solution to this is so simple: just take a break and touch the earth to replenish yourself.
The ground outside has an ever available supply of electrons, and it will never run out of electrons to tank you back up… just reach for earth to restore you.
Make it your new policy to get outside before, after, and particularly during, events that drain you. Ultimately, make grounding part of your daily routine. If you find you are routinely exhausted from daily life, which is super common in this ungrounded world around you, find ways to make grounding an easy and automatic part of your lifestyle, as automatic as brushing your teeth when you wake up in the morning or putting on a seatbelt when you get in a car.
In fact grounding is probably helping your relationship in multiple different ways, including boosting your sex life!!!
So much so that you might want to invest in a way to ground your bed at night so that you can reap all the benefits of grounding when you desire the benefits most. An organic grounding bed roll or mattress topper might just be the most romantic impactful Valentines gift of all! Find those here.
If you are struggling with infertility, if you are struggling with getting in the mood, if you are struggling with pain during intimacy, here are some of the reasons you might want to consider grounding to help reverse all of that:
6 Ways Grounding Makes Sex Better:
1. Improved Circulation & Increased Blood Flow:
I think it’s obvious that healthy circulation is absolutely crucial to sexual arousal, and not just for men but for women as well. Boosted blood flow to the genitals, nipples, lips… this allows our body to create moisture and lubrication, it allows the sex organs to become engorged, and even heightens sensitivity of everything from our fingertips to our lips to our nipples to our groin.
So the most obvious way that grounding helps with sex is that it improves circulation all over your body, from head to toe, within minutes. I’m going to go into more depth on how grounding supports our cardiac health next week, as it’s Valentine’s Day next Tuesday and I am going to focus on heart health in next week’s blog post… but if you want to understand just how incredible grounding is for your circulation, therefore for you sexual stimulation, you can read this article right now:
2. Relaxes Muscles:
Grounding immediately decreases muscle tension, all over your body. That’s why touching the earth can help deter a tension headache from occurring, or help release pain from fibromyalgia, or decrease restless leg syndrome and teeth clenching and other muscle tension issues.
When you want to get romantic, relaxing your muscles and dropping deeply into a calm, receptive state can really help you be present to connect with your partner, as well as make intimacy more comfortable. To learn more about how grounding decreases muscle tension, I created a video for you here:
3. Balances Sex Hormones:
Grounding has been shown repeatedly in the medical literature to lower cortisol. By lowering cortisol, you have more building blocks for other hormones to be made, since cortisol uses the same building blocks as sex hormones like testosterone and estrogen.
So if your sex hormones are low or out of whack, one thing you definitely want to do is lower your cortisol production, which not only decreases your felt perception of stress (good when you are trying to get in the mood!) but also allows more building blocks for your body to naturally boost your own testosterone and estrogen and other sex hormone levels. For more on how grounding balances hormones naturally, hop over here:
4. Boosts Mood, Decreases Stress:
Grounding has been shown to boost mood naturally, which is fabulous if you suffer from anxiety or depression, which are both absolute libdo killers. For a deeper dive into exactly why grounding boosts mood and what the medical studies have revealed about grounding to reduce anxiety and depression, hop over and read this article I wrote for you here:
And if you just want some quick tips on how to use grounding to lift your mood right now, I have an article waiting for you here on that:
5. Decreases Pain & Inflammation:
Grounding has been medically studied and found to relieve pain as well as decrease whole body inflammation. This is key if pelvic pain or other pain conditions are what kill your libido or prevent you from relaxing into intimacy.
I have a video going into much more detail on why grounding can be a game changer for you if you have pain… and not only grounding, but I go over 5 different ideas to help release chronic pain… things your doctor probably didn’t tell you about or explain to you.
This video is a must watch for anyone who suffers from chronic pain conditions:
6. Balances Out Negative Effects From EMF Radiation:
The natural EMFs from the earth (the Shuman Resonance and the Carnegie Curve) heal our body and are exactly opposite of the effects of manmade EMFs that harm our body. Manmade EMFs have been found repeatedly in medical studies to decrease fertility by decreasing both sperm motility and sperm quality (and quantity too.)
If you want to read more about how natural EMFs help balance out the effects of manmade EMFs on the human body, you might enjoy this free article I wrote for you:
Improved blood flow, relaxed muscles, decreased stress, boosted sex hormones, improved mood, less pain — these all can equal a massively improved sexual experience for you and your partner.
If you want to hear me go over this in less than three minutes for you, hop over here to watch my TikTok on Grounding and Sexual Health:
Want to give it a try?
If you want to feel what I’m talking about, you can experiment with going outside and leaning against a tree to kiss your sweetie, or sitting on the ground (or with just feet touching the ground) and enjoy a long slow sweet kiss. You will definitely feel a difference, just in that one kiss, compared to a kiss you do in a car or indoors.
Feel your lips, feel the sensation and the blood flow through them as you lean into your lover. It’s a heightened experience.
So how do you get grounded when you are ready to go further than a kiss, but want more privacy? Oh it’s so easy. You can use an indoor grounding tool to ground your bed — that’s the easiest solution and sleeping grounded all night long will not only help your sex life but will boost your body’s health in a multitude of ways.
I have invested a great deal of time and research creating the highest quality, most reliable, eco-ethically hand crafted (right here in the USA) grounding tools that use all natural materials — safer for you, safer for the environment.
Tools that can be used while you are sexually intimate in bed, grounding products you can lay directly on with your partner… items like grounding mattress toppers, grounding bed rolls, and grounding mats, as well as grounding pillowcases that you can use on top of any of these grounding products.
Want another holistic way to help boost your libido?
How about morning light on your face.
New research (presented at the 29th European College of Neuropsychopharmacology Congress on September 19, 2016) shows that the same light therapy recommendation to treat Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) can significantly improve sexual satisfaction in people with low desire after only 2 weeks of treatment!
While this study was on men, because light therapy is incredibly effective for females too, I truly believe that this would work for women with low sex drive and should be first line therapy for anyone with sexual dysfunction or low sex drive.
- Researchers studied 38 patients with a diagnosis of primary hypoactive sexual desire or sexual arousal disorder. Patients were randomly assigned to receive either active light treatment or placebo light treatment.
- Active treatment was a daily 30 minute exposure to a light box with UV filter upon waking each morning. Placebo light treatment was the same exposure but with a neutral density filter to reduce the light exposure to .01% strength of the active therapy.
- Patients were assessed clinically at baseline and after 2 weeks of daily morning light exposure, as well as through self assessments and blood samples to test hormone response to light therapy.
- After only two weeks of light therapy, patients with the active light treatment had hugely significant improvements in sexual satisfaction compared to placebo.
- After just two weeks, sexual satisfaction for active light therapy patients increased more than 3X over baseline (from a rating of 2 out of 10 to 6.7 out of 10!). Placebo light therapy users had no statistically significant improvement at all (from baseline of 2 out of 10 to 2.7 out of 10)
- In addition, the testosterone levels of the patients receiving active light therapy rose by over 50% in just two weeks (from an average testosterone level of 2.1 ng/mL to an average of 3.6 ng/mL!). In contrast, there was no change at all to testosterone levels in the placebo group.
In fact, as I recently blogged about here, getting some extra Vitamin D from sun exposure actually boosts fertility — doubling the rate of implantation of an embryo and boosting the pregnancy rate from 20% up to 31%.
This news is back to back with recent medical studies showing that light therapy is an incredibly effective solution for treating all forms of depression, as I blog about here!
I feel convinced that light therapy should be first line of treatment or added to the existing treatment of all forms of depressive disorders and sexual dysfunction.
Light therapy can be used safely in conjunction with medical treatments (including Rx medications) so if you are on an anti-depressant or a drug to treat sexual dysfunction, augment your treatment with light therapy and it’s possible you can work with your physician to decrease the dose!
If you want to give light therapy a try, I have combed through thousands of light therapy boxes to bring you the absolutely most effective, least expensive, most portable light therapy box that truly works…
… and it’s waiting for you right here!
So try to make a habit of going out every morning immediately after waking up and grabbing a few minutes of daylight. Better yet, take a warm cup of tea, hot water with lemon, or your morning coffee and sit on the earth grounded for 30 minutes (or take a nice AM walk!)
If that is not possible, consider adding a light box to your morning routine (have it on in the bathroom while you brush your teeth or do your make up, or in the kitchen while you eat your breakfast, in your closet while you pick out your clothes for the day, or at your desk to use for the first few minutes of work.)
Forward this article to your lover before Valentines Day and let’s have your best one yet…
xoxo, Laura Koniver MD